About Beauty

Don't deny yourself beauty. It is one of the main driving forces behind your desire. It is what makes your life into a better place, and the more you focus on true beauty, the more you will surround yourself with it.

The fear of beauty
Sometimes looking at beauty is like looking at the sun. There is fear involved. But know that only by confronting it, accepting your own feelings about it, and becoming comfortable with it, can you ever win it over.

Most people do not dear to confront beauty because they secretly have a fear of loss. They actually think that they will loose beauty if they want to come closer to it, like they somehow don't deserve it.

This fear is illogical at best.

Enjoy it, or for ever let it go
If all you desire is to look at it, then look. It is after all only a fleeting moment, and you can either enjoy it then and there, or let it go - for ever. However, if you truly want it in your life, you will only get it by facing your fear and taking action.

If you feel down, or out of it, most of the time it just means that you're not aware of all the beauty that surrounds you. You may be focussing on other things, like your own desperation or how life is treating you unfairly; mainly things that make you focus inwards, when what you should really do is look around you and take in all the beauty.

I'm not just talking about beutiful women here. I'm taking a broader perspective. Everything that is good, is also beautiful. But if you want something that is good, you must also be aware of it. If you're not, and instead focussed inwards and thus uncounscous of all the beauty - how could you ever find beauty, if you don't see it?

Do not long, take action
Now, you may see beauty, and long for it. This is the first step in taking action, because what you can see, is also within your reach. Don't let your bad feeling hold you back, your sorry excuses for not daring to take on beauty head on. Only then will you be able to fully surround yourself with it. Those who long, are also those who will never have. Instead act on your desire. Confront it. Only then may you fully immerse yourself in it.

However, this is hard if you do not understand that beauty is infinite. There isn't just one flower on the meadow. There are thousands. How can you loose beauty if you loose but one flower? Sure, a loss is always sad, but there are so many others to keep you happy. When you attach yourself to just one, you also distance yourself to all the others. So always keep your options open, and don't let yourself be blinded by beauty. After all, what good is beauty if it takes away your freedom?

Commit to love, not to the moment
In terms of women, I'm not saying that you should never commit. But if you choose to do so, at least do it on the right terms - after you have taken a closer look and made a proper desicion. After all, why should you commit if it's not perfect? When there are so many others out there (and when you do not fear confrontation, you will truly have access to them all) why should you commit to the first that comes along? You may be missing out on the love of your life. But I can also tell you that love is something that blossoms slowly. You have to get to know her for this to happen, and while this is happening, commiting may leave you wanting. It would be bad for both of you.

Remember this: Beauty is not eternal. Infinite, yes, but not eternal (there are those who look for eternal beauty, and may their search be a happy one, though they may find themselvese searching for eternety as well). This is why beauty is best experienced when you're fully in the moment. Only then will you, withouth any need and by truly selflessly giving from yourself, be able to confront it and fully immerse yourself in it. When you are in essence happy, beauty will come to you no matter what.

After all, commiting to the moment is contradictory. If you truly live in the moment, all you do is to exist in happiness. Commiting isn't even a part of it. But if you find true love - whatever it may look like - committing to it may also give you great inner peace.

About uglyness
Now, how do you deal with uglyness? The things that repulse you, plainness, or the things that you simply do not find attractive?

The answer is quite easy. Accept it.

Life is too short to look at uglyness. Instead look at all the beauty around you. Take it in. Uglyness and especially plainness will always exist side by side with beauty. Without uglyness, there would be no beauty - only plainness. You wouldn't really notice it at all. But do you ever question plainness? Well, nor should you question, or even focus on, uglyness. Just accept that it is there. It is completely natural. Instead focus on the beauty, and be thankfull for it.

Best of luck
You may fail at first. But remember, beauty is infinite. There are many more, and you need not put a lot of emphasis on the first ones you encounter, because they are, after all, only training for the one true beauty that will become your eternal love.