Statistics: How to pinpoint your sticking points and get better

It's important to continuously check your progress when trying to get better at picking up women as progress isn't something that happens over night. But in order to get an idea of where things are going, you need to gather statistics on what you do in the field, on both what you master and where you fail.

Here's a list of things you may want to follow up, and why:

• Open: This one is pretty self evident. If you don't open, you've got a serious learning disability. Ways of getting around this one is reading up on conquering AA or how to give yourself motivation.
• Hook : Did you hook the set (did they at least for a time become positive towards you)? If you don't get these, you're probably doing something wrong when you open.
• Rejection: Were you turned down aggressively or easy? Or did they just ignore you? Depending on how this went down, it could indicate that you're having a problem with delivery, or even ploughing and persistence (staying in the set no matter what). In most cases it's better to be turned down firmly rather than giving up.
• Ejection: Don't tell me you dumped them? Why did you leave? Maybe you should work on getting more persistent. Not that you should stay in a set for hours, but that you push more for close - or even rejection, as a rejection is at least a sign that you are making mistakes, and if you are making mistakes, you are also learning, and learning is progress.
  
• Pull: Did you pull the girl(s) anywhere? Your ability to pull, to isolate or extract is very important to get the girl into a more private, comfy and therefore more intimate situation.
• Escalation: Did you try to escalate? How soon? Subtly or agressively? Only kino or did you try to kiss her? If you don't escalate, you won't get anything more than numbercloses. And speaking of...
• Close: Did you number close? Did you kiss close? Did you fclose? If you didn't, it could be a clear sign that you've got a closing sticky.

Now these are just suggestions on what you can follow up upon. If nothing else, use it for motivation. My friend COCPORN made a system where you get XP for opens and closes and made it into a game on the Internet. You get a little XP for an open and 250XP for an fclose (the Holy Grail of pickup). So if you're a World of Warcraft addict, this may be the thing that saves you and gets you back to real life. :p

Make a note of each time you get one of these and how it went, and then add them up when you've got some data on it, say after a couple of months to track progress. It's also nice to have a quick look at the data each week for motivation. Always try to beat last week's score. Add upp the data, visualize it in any way you want. Track open to close ratio. Behold, you now have a powerful tool to pinpoint your sticking points.

Statistics aren't for looking at isolated incidents, but for finding a pattern, or finding a trend. Therefore you shouldn't look at single happenings. Stop obsessing over that one time. Instead look for the trend of things. For example, if you eject 10 out of 15 times, you have a problem with too early ejection. The fix? Persistence and ploughing, and not least ability to go for close. It's in fact better to get rejected than to eject, as a rejection is a sign that you've used up all your tricks, and that you may have to learn some new ones to get the success you want (or even unlearn some bad habits).

Happy hunting!

Mission: Become the Charming Guy

Ever seen a truly charming guy? What was he like? How did he do with women?

Being charming is a role you can enter, if you're not already charming by nature. It doesn't mean you'll have to be nice. A charming guy isn't necessarily nice. He's charming! He's probably quite happy teasing you, smiling a lot, poking a bit of fun at you, but all in good nature. A charming guy is simply someone who makes you happy by being slightly assertive, but not necessarily by being overly nice of polite. He's also social and likes to get to know new people, and since he displays a warm and charming smile when approaching, everybody instantly opens up to him.

This charming guy is easy to like. Therefore women will easily accompany you on the dancefloor, or even go outside with you for a breath for fresh air (or whatever it is people do outside nowadays).

Simply put: A charming guy gets into many more situations where it's possible to escalate, either to a makeout, or all the way to sex, than the average joe.

He's fun, and he's a challenge - that's why he's charming. And he's easy to model because most people know how a charming guy is like.

So... Do you think you could be a charming guy for a day? I'm sure you can! In fact I think you should try it out for at least two days, say for Friday and Saturday night, and then come back and tell me how it went.

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I hereby declare that I (insert nick or name here) will become, or at least model, a charming guy for at least two days, preferably Friday and Saturday night while I'm out meeting people. Upon aggreeing with this, I also declare that I will come back and tell you about my experiencem and how it went being a charming guy.

Ratatas Open Relationship Rules

There really isn't much new to say about how to create open and FB (fuck buddy) relationships. Google "Johnny Soporno" and read his stuff about Seductive Reasoning. It's excellent and not only will it give you great new tools to work with, but it will also give you the power to set women free of the social programming society has put on them until now.

I do however have a few rules of my own when it comes to open relationships.

An open relationship means I can have sex with others, if I want. Of course that also means that she can do the same. Anything else would just be sexist and unfair. Soporno even encourages his girls to do it, as he says, "When I'm not with you, I'm probably with somebody else". I probably take it as far as him, but I do probe her for it, and if I find that it's beginning to become a problem, I talk with her about it.

However, when she's with me, she's with me. I don't want her to start flirting with others in front of me, and I won't flirt with other girls in front of her.

The only exception is of course if we're trying to get a threesome. (And getting a threesome when you have a lover is, as I was thought by my friend Warpig from the Norwegian Lair, extremely simple. Again, it's really just about asking politely for it.)

Further more, I don't talk about my other sex-adventures, and I expect the same of her. Why would there be any need to discuss it? After all, the time we spend together is about me and her, not me and some other girl.

I'll gladly help her with her love life, though. To me, that's an entirely different thing. If she wants emotional attachment beyond friendship, I'm usually not the guy. And if I fealt that way about a particular girl, I'd probably end other "lover" relationships and go exclusive. But that's not to say that my sexual encounters with my lovers aren't romantic. There is just not such an emotional feeling of attachment.

Of course, in the end it's just that kind of emotional connections I'm looking for; to find that special girl, my soulmate. But until I find her, I don't see the need to limit myself by going into exclusive relationships that would probably get torn apart with cheating and jealousy anyway. It's my experience so far that being honest about your intentions up front is far better, and will quell any rampant emotions and drama.